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Sometimes it can get hard, you easily lose your focus and start yelling back at the kids. Whether you have a toddler or a teen, it can be a difficult job to deal with. Follow next 6 rules to stay as happy as you can.
1. CONTROL IT BEFORE YOU SHOW IT
Controlling your anger can be a tricky job, especially when someone is intentionally trying to start a fight. When we speak in anger, we often say stuff we do not want to say and make everything just worse. The moment you want to yell, just take a deep breath, visualize relaxing situation and think again if it’s worth it.
2. LAUGH TOGETHER
Spending time together in general is the best way to keep your family close, but how much time together is enough should depend on kids age. If you have younger kids try reading jokes instead of good night stories every once in a while, for a bit older children you can try the board game, watching a family comedy or stand up show.
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3. LISTEN
Best friends are the ones that are ready to spend hours listening to us while we cry about everyday situations and the same thing is when it comes to parenting. Maybe your children wouldn’t want to talk with parents about some personal issues, but at least they know you are there to listen. Sometimes we assume things before even giving a chance to someone to explain. Many times the intention of a kid wasn’t bad, but the result of it turned the wrong way. As a parent, you should never ignore the problem your kid is having because what seems to us like nothing can mean a world to somebody else. Acknowledge their feelings and help as much as you can. Remember: kid can get emotional by a broken toy as much as an adult when car breaks down.
4. I LOVE YOU
How often do you say “I love you” to your kids? Three magical words that changed the history, inspired books and songs, so how come some parents never say it to their children, even though they love them more than anything in the world. My mom tells me she loves me probably once a week, but my dad always says it only when we get in a fight as a reminder how strong love is. Since I was a little girl, I appreciated those words as really meaningful and important and I could never imagine not telling that to my children.
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5. TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF
Everyone needs time to relax to be able to work normally. Take a time out from everyone and just focus on yourself. Taking time can be sitting on a toilet and watching puppies videos on your phone or drinking a coffee behind closed doors. 10 minutes a day just forgetting on the problems can help you and your relationships with kids and husband/wife.
6. SET RULES
Children keep challenging the boundaries we set that is why it is so important to set rules. Rules not only prepare your children for the real world, but also teach how to socialize. You do not want to raise a problematic adult just because you were too weak to stick to the rules you set. When you set rules you have to be clear and talk about them with your children, to make sure they understand them and the following consequences if they break them. The child is more likely to obey rules if he helped to create them so make sure you involve him in it. Clear rules bring less misunderstaning, what brings us to less fighting and happier family life.
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